Our minds are hardwired to keep us comfortable and safe inside of our comfort zone. Because of that, it can be hard to find the motivation to overrule our natural tendencies to be mediocre or do the bare minimum and really strive for the next level of success.
We are only motivated to do the things that are easy for us.
The truth of the matter is that we are never going to want to do the thing that is outside of our comfort zone or that will push us forward to achieve our goals.
How often have you sabotaged your own goals by hiding out, not following through, or even just hesitating? Did you know that when you hesitate then the brain sends a stress signal to start hyper-focusing on the thing that you were about to do and then hesitated? Normally we don’t hesitate to do things that are easy or simple for us which keeps our brain on autopilot. When we hesitate to do something new or scary our brains create what is known as the ‘spotlight effect’ and through over thinking it heightens the perceived risks of what we are already hesitating to do.
When Motivation Fails
The body and mind tries to protect itself from danger, embarrassment from your tribe or social circle, rejection, and anything else that might lead to shame or disconnection. Even if the new action is small, such as talking to a stranger, even a slight hesitation gives your brain permission to jump in between you and the action and say “WOAH WOAH WOAH…. Are you sure you want to be doing this???”.
So, what can we do about this persistent problem?
#1 Stop Waiting
The more you give into hesitation the longer you will live in self-sabotage. If you walk up to the edge of the pool with the intent to jump in, do it before you even think about hesitating. Whenever I do that it is 10 times easier than pausing before I jump. I also try to practice this when it comes to speaking my mind. Even if I fumble over the words I feel like its more important that I get the words out than I hold them in and start thinking about “how” I want to say what I am thinking.
#2 Remember that You are just one decision away from a Different Life
Seriously you are one decision away from a new house, job, exercise routine, or relationship. A couple of years ago I flew across the US for a conference and decided that I wanted a new life, so I stayed in that city and begun a whole new life leaving a marriage and existence that wasn’t serving me. Was it difficult? Yes. Was it worth it? Yes, it was the best decision I ever made.
We have so much more power than we think we have over our own lives and choices. It is up to us to take action and make the difference. It doesn’t have to be a big change to make a big impact. Embrace the micro-moment of this decision and take a baby step towards it. Maybe that looks like washing your car or buying flowers for a loved one. If you feel hesitant it might be what needs to happen to shift your life.
#3 Get out of Your Head
You have about 5 seconds between the impulse to do something, and doing it, before your own thoughts will start to get in your way. It may sound simple but if you can move into action before 5 seconds is up it will be easier to stay out of your own head. Our minds are so powerful and really they are here to help us but when we choose to use it to over think we will slow down our success.
Tell us in the comments below what you do to stay motivated.
Sources- Mel Robbins